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How Our Words Affect Our Energy Healing

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

Our language show the outside world what our inner world is like. Words are the guardians of our emotions and our emotions guard our thoughts. How Spiritual Growth is influenced by the language that we employ will be reviewed in this article.

Our ideal state is gained through the process of Energy Healing. Having achieved our idyllic state we can see that our true nature easily shines through. And our true nature is that which was given to employ by our creator.

The inner beauty of our true nature will shine through only when we take off the filters that block it. Are these filters made of some mysterious substance? They are made up of our emotions and our thoughts. Our language are what expresses both our thoughts and emotions.

Why have the words that we use turned into my main focus? Thoughts or emotions could have easily been the smart focus. I decided that language were the simplest to take note of so I decided to select them for observation. And our friends and associates can simply present to us our employ of Language.

When someone comments on your emotions it is easy to disagree with their point of view. But if they said that you said “I hate everybody” or “I love everybody” that is difficult to challenge. Growth is judged by the language that we use. If you want your life to change then simply change your words.

Thoughts fly by so fast it is hard to grab them to change them. If you were to try to follow your thoughts you would see that they go from subject to subject to subject. It is very hard to stop them long enough to see what is going on.

Emotions are just as hard to get a glimpse of. I am sure you have been surprised by your emotional reactions. Usually by the time we recognize an emotional state, such as anger, we might be to far gone too be able to change what is going on.

But language are different. When you speak a sentence you have the ability to immediately change it. To either reorder the language or change the words altogether. Instead of saying “You make me mad” you could say “What you are doing makes me mad”. These two sentences are very different.

You may wonder how this helps with changing the filters that block our true nature from coming through. Negative emotions are our central filters. Emotions such as fear, hate, jealousy, anger etc… These negative emotions are best replaced with positive emotions such as gratitude, love, patience, kindness etc…

We can replace the negative with the positive by watching our Words and what we say. The more positive and uplifting our language become, the more positive and uplifting will our thoughts and emotions turned into.

Our true nature shines through as we clear away the negative and as the positive grows.

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These 4 Powerful Reasons to Write a Book Proposal and Find a Publisher Are What Wise Self-Improvement Gurus Favor

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

A Special Memo On SELF-IMPROVEMENT:
From One Gutsy Consultant to Another

If you believe in self-improvement, then you should believe in books, because nearly all improvements that we have observed down through history have been caused by the written word. Books have a tendency toward changing the attitudes of people. And, as more people read a book (or books about a particular topic), the change becomes universal.

If you want to make a difference in other people’s lives regarding Self-Improvement then you should look at writing a book that shares positive experiences.

Every writer you’ll talk to has their own opinion about “how to write a book”. Some even have two or three.

Some will tell you to begin by writing a book proposal, others will say that using book writing software did the trick for them.

It is very important to know “how to start writing a book proposal and looking for a literary agent”, but the real driving force for a business person are the motivations to write a book.

Each person has many reasons for writing a book, says business adviser to authors DrProactive Randy Gilbert, but there are 4 that almost everyone has in common. The best way to satisfy those reasons it to a build a business around the book so that it makes money as it becomes a bestseller.

It can make you a bestselling author, and a millionaire at the same time, which is why DrProactive named “bestselling business”. Working quickly and starting to write a book proposal that has a business created as an integral part of it, is a smart thing to do.

If you want to write a book, then see if one or more of these benefits will motivate you.

#1 – Having a Book Gives You Instant Credibility
There is no substitute for the kind of credibity you receive by having “Best-Selling Author” in your bio. It will immediately differentiate you and elevate you above other speakers. Because “you wrote the book on it”, you’ll receive Celebrity Status and recognition in your subject area. Very few other speakers can claim this highest level of “authority.”

#2 – Sell Lots of Books and You Will Have Your Own Sales Force Around the World
When your book becomes a New York Times bestseller it will get into more stores, which is like having a huge sales force, because people will be introduced to you and your products all across the globe. And, as they read your book, they are being convinced to have you give them more information specifically for their group. Plus you’ll discover that your book sells everything and everything sells your book.

#3 – Being a Bestselling Author Means Easy Access to Media That is Worth Millions of Advertising Dollars
Doors will open to interview on the radio, in magazines and newspapers, and even on TV. This is the most cost effective advertising known to man. And, these interviews are even better than just free advertising, because everyone views you as the expert, not another ad buyer.

#4 - Building Other Products Around Your Book Will Multiply Your Income
You’ll get a wider (and almost endless) variety of speaking opportunities when you have products and services to sell. You will be requested to speak from the platform at major events that are put on by other entrepreneurs who want to increase their profits when you sell your high-ticket products. When word gets around that you made lots of money for an organizer (the same amount you make for yourself), then you’ll be invited to speak at other events.

SUMMARY:

Now that you know that writing a book proposal and getting a publisher pays high dividends, there is no excuse for not taking action. Every reason for writing a book is important and should be good enough to get you started.

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A Young Woman Needs Treatment for Her Mental Illness and For Her Drug Addiction and Alcohol Dependency

Saturday, November 14th, 2009

Nearly five weeks ago I met a twenty-one-year-old woman named Rachael who is bipolar and who is also alcohol and drug dependent. I have read that under such circumstances, an individual needs to get treatment for both medical situations and that mental health problems and chemical dependency many times occur in the same individual. Additionally, I recollect hearing that a history of excessive and careless drinking, drug abuse, and/or mental health concerns often take place in the same family.

Plainly, Rachael is so defeated by both of her medical conditions that she in essence has little or no enthusiasm to achieve much of anything. What is especially sad about this is that earlier in her life, Rachael finished two years of college. Rachael’s situation makes me wonder if she is an example of an individual who has to hit the bottom of the barrel before he or she gets drug and alcohol counseling that leads to long lasting sobriety.

The Need For a Physician She Trusts and a Treatment Protocol She Can Believe In

If I were in contact with Rachael I could recommend several websites and blogs that could possibly help her locate info about addiction and alcoholic behavior, important chemical dependency information, facts about alcoholism and drugs, and info about addiction symptoms and alcoholism warning signs. In my opinion, nevertheless, Rachael needs to find a psychologist she trusts and a rehab regimen she can believe in and follow over the long term. I could be incorrect but it seems to make sense that Rachael more likely than not needs to accept the fact that she cannot drink at all or abuse drugs if she wants to get sober, stay sober, and start on the route to long-lasting sobriety.

I am mindful that there are a number of newly discovered doctor-prescribed drugs that can help Rachael through the drug and alcohol detox process, through her withdrawal symptoms, and help her avoid a drug or an alcohol relapse. Clearly it would be in Rachael’s best interests if she knew about these drugs.

It is clear that Rachael needs to acknowledge the fact that there is utterly nothing positive about excessive and hazardous drinking and drug addiction and that engaging in one or both circumstances is the path to poor work and school performance, shattered relationships, legal problems, financial difficulties, a premature death, and deteriorating health.

The Significance of Support Groups Like Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous

There are reasonably a lot of persons such as family members, other individuals, and friends who would like to help Rachael but she probably would experience greater sympathy from a support group such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous rather than listening to individuals who drink responsibly or who have never used drugs.

When People Accomplish Things They Like and About Which They Are Zealous

There’s a school of thought that emphasizes that people who do things they love and something about which they are dedicated arrive at an astonishing place in life. In other words, when people do what they enjoy, they almost never experience an uneventful life or boredom. If they get involved in something that is enjoyable, what is more, they become more whole and experience more contentment and joy in life.

To me, this sounds quite a bit different from a life that is rooted in alcohol and drug addiction because such a lifestyle removes the contentment and delight that life has to offer.

Since Rachael doesn’t have the resolve to do much of anything in her life, it is plain to see that she urgently needs some hope for a better existence. And the unfortunate thing is that hope is virtually everywhere around Rachael if she could only get to the place in life to get the treatment she needs for her mental illness and addiction and remain in her treatment protocol.

A Wonderful Life, Self Respect, and Constructive Change Are Possibilities

Rachael is simply too young to be crushed in life. She doesn’t realize this at the moment but if she can learn how to remove herself from alcohol and drugs via alcohol and drug therapy and get the counseling she needs for her manic depression condition, she can reorient her life and start living with self-respect, passion, and direction.

Positive change, self esteem, and a meaningful life are certainly a reality for Rachael if only she could get motivated to get the medical rehabilitation she requires, follow through with her treatment regimen, live her life in a healthy and addiction-free manner, and develop a more positive attitude about life.

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Excessive and Hazardous Drinking, an Enabling Spouse, and Inspiration for Positive Change and Successful Alcoholism Rehabilitation

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

It took several years but Emily eventually determined that she had it with her husband’s negative drinking. She was fed up from seeing Barry come home late at night from drinking instead of spending time with the family. She was also tired of the DWI Barry recently received. Moreover she was fed up from generating justifications for her husband when he couldn’t make it to work on time due to his problems with drinking. In a similar manner she was concerned about the fact that their relationship was going downhill due to Barry’s unhealthy and excessive drinking. And finally she was tired of the dangerous financial bind into which he had put his family because of his abusive drinking behavior.

When Excessive and Irresponsible Drinking Motivates a Person to do Something Productive About an Individual’s Drinking Problem

One morning when Emily was pondering what she could do about her husband’s careless and hazardous drinking, she got to the point that she frankly had to do something positive to cut into the negative cycle of Barry’s harmful drinking behavior.

So she looked on the Internet under “alcohol treatment” and located scores of rehab facilities that were all located less than 30 miles away from where she and Barry lived.

Since she didn’t know much about these rehab clinics, she eventually decided that she needed to call some of them and ask a few questions. When she called each rehab facility she identified who she was and stated that her spouse was exhibiting abusive and hazardous drinking behavior. She also mentioned that her husband had a top-rate health insurance program at his place of employment and that outpatient or inpatient alcohol rehabilitation would be covered if a health care professional in the company health network prescribed the rehabilitation.

At one rehab center, Emily was shocked that she was able to communicate directly with a doctor who suggested that she come to the rehab clinic to talk about her husband’s abusive and hazardous drinking behavior in much more detail.

Emily Talks to a Healthcare Practitioner About Her Husband’s Abusive and Careless Drinking

When Emily got to the treatment center, she filled out some paperwork and then after just a few minutes got to see a psychologist.

After listening to Emily describe her husband’s excessive and hazardous drinking, the doctor in an encouraging but firm way told Emily how she probably played a part in her husband’s abusive and hazardous drinking through the months and the years by rationalizing his drinking instead of letting him experience the results of his abusive and unhealthy drinking behavior.

Emily Finds Out She Has Been Enabling Her Husband’s Hazardous and Irresponsible Drinking

Stated in a slightly different way, the physician told Emily that she may have been accidentally enabling Barry’s excessive and abusive drinking behavior. The healthcare professional also highlighted the fact that while Emily would not be able to control Barry’s conduct, with the encouragement and guidance of the rehabilitation team at the healthcare center she would not only be able to learn how to abstain from contributing to Barry’s harmful drinking but she could also learn how to encourage him to schedule an appointment at the rehab center so that he could discuss his careless and abusive drinking behavior with a physician.

The good news was that after Emily explained this to her husband, and he saw that she was serious, Barry told her that he had been quite anxious about his hazardous drinking behavior and that he was very relieved to hear that Emily wanted to do something beneficial about his abusive drinking behavior. As a result, he made an appointment to see a healthcare practitioner at the local alcohol rehabilitation clinic.

Barry Agrees to See a Doctor About His Careless and Abusive Drinking

While simply calling a treatment clinic does not guarantee that an individual’s hazardous and careless drinking behavior will end or that one’s warning signs of alcoholism or the alcohol abuse signs one displays will simply go away, scheduling an appointment is obviously a necessary step in the rehabilitation process. And since Barry was serious about getting rehab for his careless drinking, the likelihood of a successful recovery was substantially enhanced.

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A Sunday School Teacher Gets Arrested for Driving Under the Influence, Gets Motivated and Inspired To Obtain Alcohol Rehabilitation for Her Hazardous and Abusive Drinking, and Increases Her Sense of Worth

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

For the past six years Jenny has been a licensed practical nurse at a urban hospital. In addition she has also been teaching Sunday school at the local Methodist Church. Despite the fact that she lived in a medium size countryside town where it appeared like every person knew everyone’s business, very little was known about Jenny. Of course almost everyone knew that she had worked several years as an RN and that she taught Sunday school for as long as she was a resident of their small town. Other than that, nevertheless, it almost appeared as if Jenny was merely a visitor in their town.

You can envisage the hubbub that took place when it was found out that one Sunday morning Jenny had lost consciousness because of drinking and driving. If truth be told, the article in the hometown weekly newspaper stated that Jenny not only passed out, but that she also received a DWI due to the fact that her blood alcohol content was substantially higher than the legal limit for drunk driving. This is obviously one of the alcohol effects on the body that no Sunday school teacher wants to have discussed by the entire town. But this is specifically what occurred, much to the dismay of Jenny.

Jenny Gets Very Depressed About Her Arrest for Drunk Driving

Evidently, Jenny was very upset about her arrest for driving while intoxicated. Not only should she have known better about driving while inebriated because of her nursing job, but she also should have held herself accountable to a higher benchmark because of the basic fact that she taught Sunday school.

After her drunk driving arrest, Jenny thought about moving out of town so that she would not have to feel disappointed about her arrest and also so she wouldn’t have to justify her actions for the hundredth time to the people in town. After speaking with her minister, nevertheless, she made up her mind that she would get alcohol rehabilitation at a local drug and alcohol rehabilitation hospital. She did this for two specific reasons. First, it was relatively convenient for her to drive to a local rehab facility. And second, she truthfully wanted the word to get disseminated among all the residents in the community that she was openly dealing with her careless drinking.

Jenny Goes Through Alcohol Detox and Gets a Thorough Physical Examination

After Jenny went through detox, she got thoroughly checked by a physician at the rehab facility. She then underwent a couple of lab tests where it was established that she was not an alcoholic but rather was involving herself in hazardous and abusive drinking. In a word Jenny was engaging in long term alcohol abuse.

Jenny was presented with the option of getting registered as a residential patient or getting alcohol rehab as an outpatient. Jenny, nonetheless, believed that she could still work at the hospital and maintain her Sunday school teaching position if she were to be admitted as an out-patient and this is specifically what she did.

According to her counseling game plan, Jenny went to three sessions per week, she learned a lot about alcohol info, she worked on her homework “assignments,” and she discovered how to involve herself doing things in life that did not involve alcohol.

After five weeks, Jenny determined that her abusive and hazardous drinking was under control and so she got released from the drug and alcohol rehab facility under the stipulation that she would return for follow up therapy once per month for the next nine months. Jenny agreed and followed through on her “promise.”

Jenny Decides to Abstain From Any and All Drinking Circumstances and Finds Out That Her Self Confidence Gets Stronger

After she finished her rehabilitation Jenny thought that she would be able to drink in moderation. After pondering her situation more rigorously, nevertheless, she concluded that she would totally stay away from any and all drinking situations.

When Jenny arrived at this decision, she found out that her sense of worth became more augmented the more she displayed her power over her life. And as her self-worth grew stronger, it seemed like she became more sociable and started going to more community activities such as flower festivals, local high school football and basketball games, music festivals, Christmas tree lighting ceremonies, strawberry festivals, rib roasts, and carnivals.

Jenny Addresses Her Irresponsible and Hazardous Drinking, Makes up Her Mind To Do Something Positive About It, and Rediscovers Her Faith

As the years passed, the individuals in the community manifested more affection for Jenny because she was involving herself with them more often and also because she addressed her unhealthy and excessive drinking and did something productive about it. It may have been her imagination, but it also appeared that her Sunday school students exhibited more affection and respect for her.

Jenny is a living illustration of someone who faced a critical issue and who did something positive about it. She is also a person who learned that her religious faith is not only something that is intrinsic, but that it is also something that affects the way in which an individual interacts with other people.

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Self Improvement Explored

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009

Self-Improvement Tips : How to Overcome Shyness

nil in this world is ideal. For no reason flawless. Actually the beauty of many things is in their flaws. likewise, none of the human beings is idealt. Some folks are not content about their characteristic, some may complain about their tallness, hair or complexion and some likely are not content with their careers. These and many more are the reasons people keep feeling depressed and worried about most of the time. But one should never give up in any way. Optimism can do wonders and proper planning with extraordinary fortitude can alter things upside down.

evidently, here I do not mean that you can change your location of origin or something which is decided by God, but technological improvements and logical analysis can do a lot to change things about your physical look, such as you can even change your features by having plastic surgeries. You can do a lot with your hair and you can treat even your obesity and skin problems to increase your personality.

An aged saying is that “primary impression is the last impression”. hence, it is of primary importance that one should think about self improvement as far as the personality is worried. You need to give an fantastic impression to any one and every one as that will not only make you feel huge but will also give an additional lightening to your daily activities.

The best way to grow your personality is that, listing out all what you need to change in your personality. Is it the way you dress, accessories or make up you wear, your skin with acne, your obesity or anything that is making you uncomfortable and you are afraid to face folk. You fear that probably you are not looking good and you are just refining yourself to your home or family. Please, do not do that. You can improve all this. Once, you made this list of things to be improved with subject to your personality, now you need to work out.

Make a proper preparation, consult a beautician, a nutritionist and a stylish may be. Get you hair done, work on your skin with different remedies, work out to have an spotless figure, wear something trendy that fits your figure and style and a few more positive things and you will see a beaming change in your personality within weeks. All appears unfeasible? Or, all looks like another fake article to grab attention? Not really, it is not all difficult and it is not at all another fake piece of writing to grab attention or make cash. I exactly want you to feel that nothing is impossible when it comes to personal improvement.

Only thing to do all this is stay cool, forget about what occurred till the last minute and begin over with new eagerness, think optimistically and the most significant part is non-stop implementation of any plan, be it a food plan, an employ plan or a beauty plan.

One thing you should do is preparation is not for a week or a month or even a year, you have to motivate yourself to make it your life fashion, only then you can maintain an striking personality. Try to follow these little simple guidelines of self improvement regarding your personality, boast yourself a bit and give your self a little but quality time and have fun your improved personality. Self improvement in any march of life is not at all tough and can be started at any time and age, and this is your time to begin. Read more and visit the following site to get world of warcraft gold for sale.

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Be a Part of the Healing with Group Therapy

Tuesday, October 6th, 2009

With increasing problems about a number of mental health anxieties, Group Therapy has been receiving wide popularity in the recent times. Despite the fact that long-established ideas about therapy normally involve the picture of a single beneficiary and their therapist engaging in quiet yet investigative talk, the modern experience of therapy is definitely shifting. This shift in the common view is considerably contributed to the novel concept of Group Therapy in which, the beneficiaries benefit by working as a team and hence, discover the many options of getting rid of widespread anxieties. These collaborative sessions have many personal advantages in store for the Group Therapy beneficiaries, but the most gratifying of the entire healing process here, is the contentment gained by being part of the answer to someone else’s problem.

In fact, lots of individuals enjoy the part of having to meet compassionate group members who are keen and mentally relieved to share their personal anxieties about issues of clash faced by them. But sometimes, the biggest breakthroughs come when somebody is to the other side of the experience sharing exchange, listening to a fellow client discuss their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The art of listening can be significantly honed in group therapy activities, where demonstrating serenity, perception, and respect for the person talking are encouraged and time and again flourish. Being able to provide an intuitive thought or comment or to express a sense of friendship or common concern can help beneficiaries feel that they are contributing to the healing process, a mind-set that is likely to stimulate a great deal of positive vigor and momentum .

One of the greatest aspects about modern positive cure is its focus on being collaborative – that is, encouraging clients to play an active and noteworthy role in their own recovery, rather than setting aside everything up to the mental health specialist. The excellent working of Group Therapy, takes the therapeutic process one step further by expanding the zone of action from individual improvement of mental health and prosperity to sharing and participation with others as well. Although group therapy has a long way to go on its way to becoming a more essential fixture of the therapy arena, it is sure to bring finer experiences to scores of clients along the way.

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Know Yourself - First Step For Self-Improvement

Thursday, September 17th, 2009

Self-Improvement Tips

According to a Marketdata Enterprises market report, the U.S. self-improvement market is worth $9.6 Billion. It’s a huge business and it attracts a lot of attention. Yet, for all its importance, most people fail to understand what it’s all about.

A lot of people who are attracted to the art and science of self-improvement are motivated by the lure of money. They want to know better and more expedient ways of climbing the ladder of financial success. It’s no accident that the bible of the self-improvement world is called, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

That is really unfortunate because financial success is really only a relatively small part of what self-improvement should be about. First and foremost, self-improvement should be about finding ways of having a more successful life and money is only a part of that equation.

Until that is understood, all the personal work done in self-improvement is next to useless. Money may be essential to a happy life but it’s only an aspect of the whole picture. This has been clearly demonstrated in the stories of people who have achieved great levels of financial success and were left so disillusioned that they ended up committing suicide.

But, do we ever observe ourselves in the same manner - to find out our faults, shortcomings and flaws in our own behaviour and character? We spend most of our lives in focussing our minds (Chitta) on observing, appraising and assessing others, but do we ever undertake the same exercise for ourselves once in a while? Probably not and very rarely, if at all.

The science of making money is not all that complex. It could be summed up in a few sentences: 1) Be obsessed with money. 2) Keep on trying to find new ways of making money. 3) Work very hard and save. Anything added to that is superfluous. Nothing else is needed.

On the other hand, real self-improvement is a life-long process. It’s not about learning new tricks on how to influence people. It’s about understanding why we do what we do, about fundamental personality change and about character building.

The title says it all, self-improvement. It’s about improving who we are as humans. It’s about learning that our past does not equate our future. It’s about coming to grip with the fact that it is possible to change and finding out how those changes can be affected.

Meditation is the only way to undertake this inward journey. When we meditate, we shut off our outer senses and our Chitta starts its journey inside - in the realm of Atman. The Atman is the sole guiding light for our lives. Unless we awaken and empower it, no improvement in our lives is possible. Empowerment of the Atman can only be achieved through meditation. There is no other way

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Handshake Analysis

Sunday, September 13th, 2009

A greeting and gesture of acknowledgement, handshakes provide an insight into the other person. Lots of us make use of them everyday so it’s worthwhile to take the time to understand how to perform and analyze them.

You should take hold of the other person’s hand firmly when shaking hands with them. How strong your grip is communicates your level of confidence. Make eye contact but maintain a distance of an arm’s length. Shake the other person’s hand 2 or 3 times, briefly pause, then drop the hand. Use your smile, eyes and tone of voice to communicate a positive message. That is a standard handshake but you should be aware of some variations that others use.

The Aggressive Shake. You’ll feel a crush on your fingers plus an exagerrated up / down movement whilst you’re shaking hands. They’re sending you a message that they’re physically stronger than you and that they will control your meeting. Those who shake hands like this desire to be seen as being confident though they merely come across as aggressive.

The Trust Me Shake. The initiator wants to express that they are in control. They’ll grab your right hand using their right and place their left on top creating a kind of glove on your hand. They do this to imply you can trust them yet instead it results in feeling overpowered and uncomfortable.

The Lifeless Shake. This handshake feels as though the other person has no strength in their hand. Those doing this give others a weak impression of themselves. It communicates that they aren’t a threat but also that they can’t be counted on.

The Slippery Shake. The people who perform this have a dislike for handshakes and hope to get it over as quickly as possible. You’ll find your hand is left hanging in mid air after they lightly grip it before letting go a second later. Keeping you at a distance makes them feel more comfortable and they likely favor avoidance of even minimal familiarity with others.

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A Young Couple Appraises Their Abusive and Heavy Drinking and Their Short and Long-Term Hopes, Plans, and Dreams

Friday, September 11th, 2009

Merissa and Augie have been dating one another for four years. They met while taking the same urban studies class at a relatively small, country, private liberal arts college located in the Northern part of the United States. While they were only good buddies at first, they at long last began dating when they were in their second year of college.

Given the fact that both of them came from very strict backgrounds, neither one of them drank much beyond the casual drinking stage when they first began dating. As the time went by, nevertheless, they began to go to more sorority and fraternity parties, football bashes, keg parties, and happy hours. Consequently, they steadily began to drink more as they proceeded in their relationship.

Their Social Life Commonly Consisted of Going to Parties With Their Friends, Going to Restaurants Three or Four Nights Per Week, Going to Professional Sporting Events, Going to Happy Hour With Their Friends, and Going With Their Friends to the Local Discotheque on the Weekends

After they graduated, they both found jobs in a large city that was located approximately fifty miles from their undergraduate college. Then they decided to move into the same apartment together.

Given the fact that they were far removed from the college drinking scene, then again, their social life regularly consisted of going to professional sporting events, going to happy hour with their friends, going to parties with their friends, going to restaurants three or four nights per week, and going to the local nightspot with their friends on the weekends. Simply put, Augie and Merissa started to drink in an irresponsible manner.

Now that were living with one another and beginning to get more unwavering about their relationship, then again, they started to think about getting married, becoming more responsible, having children, and buying a house.

With any substantial adjustment in an individual’s life there is often something that prompts the particular alteration in question. For Merissa and Augie the thought of having children and buying a new house was this “source of change.” Stated more forcefully, for the first time in their lives, Merissa and Augie started to critically appraise their excessive and hazardous drinking and the long term effects of alcohol on their health.

How Would Their Abusive Drinking Affect Their Relationship With One Another, Their Finances, Their Relationship With Their Parents, Their Mental Health, and Their Ability to Have Children?

Would their heavy and abusive drinking unfavorably affect their ability to have children? How would they be able to continue spending almost all of their money on drinking if they were to start saving for a new house? How mature would they be if they had children and continued to drink in an irresponsible manner? How would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long term plans, dreams, and hopes while they still drank in an excessive and abusive manner while having fun as they did when they were in college? What would their abusive and hazardous drinking do to their relationship? How would their hazardous drinking affect their mental health?

From a different perspective, although neither one of them ever suffered from alcohol poisoning, received a DUI, or experienced alcohol withdrawal symptoms, they realized that their abusive drinking was becoming an issue that they could not disregard any longer.

After Giving Their Situation Much Deliberation, Augie and Merissa Finally Comprehended That Their Dreams, Plans, and Hopes Would not be Attained if They Continued Their Heavy Drinking

All of these queries undeniably resulted in the same conclusion: Augie and Merissa needed to be more aware that they couldn’t continue their irresponsible and excessive drinking if their dreams, aspirations, and goals were to be attained.

Once they settled upon this conclusion, they informed their drinking friends about their goal of buying or building a new house, about their plans to start a family, and about their marital plans. They also told their drinking pals that they still wanted to pal around with them but that they would be drinking responsibly from this moment forward so that they could start to realize their future aspirations, dreams, and hopes.

Amazingly, all of their buddies expressed relief because they too had been reflecting on their lives and concluded that their life-styles were too focused on drinking. They also realized that they would have to change substantially if they were to become more accountable and show more care for their health, their aspirations, and for their careers in the next five or ten years.

After opening up to their buddies about their dreams, goals, and aspirations, Augie and Merissa actually started to have more meaningful relationships with all of their pals. The primary reason for this was the fact that all of them were on the same wave-length regarding their hazardous and irresponsible drinking and their short and long-term aspirations, goals, and plans.

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